Fun Questions & Interesting Discussion Ideas with Your Partner
Fun Questions and Interesting Discussion Topics
Tired of talking to your partner about the kids, the bills and your jobs? Struggling to come up with intriguing questions and fun discussion topics on date night? Below are fun and interesting questions and discussion topics that previous clients, friends and family members have shared with me since I started practicing in 1999. Give them a try! You might be surprised at how much you learn about your partner.
Would you rather be a movie star or a famous musician? Why?
Would you rather be given a million dollars tomorrow or 10 million dollars 10 years from now? Why?
Is social media bringing people closer or making everyone more isolated and alone? Why?
Would you rather go into the past and meet your ancestors or go into the future and meet your great grandchildren? Why?
Would you rather show friends every photo in your phone or read out loud every text you have sent this week? Why?
Do you usually follow your head or your heart when making decisions? Why?
Would you rather put a stop to war or world hunger? Why?
Would you rather know how to scuba dive or know how to fly a plane? Why?
Would you punch a bee hive, naked, for $1,000,000.00? Why or why not?
Would you rather take a vow of celibacy or a vow of silence? Why?
Would you rather always be gossiped about or never talked about? Why?
When was the last time you laughed? What made you laugh?
Would you rather watch the sunset or the sunrise? Why?
Would you rather have more money or more time? Why?
What is your favorite way to end a long day? Why?
Would you rather have an unlimited gift certificate at a restaurant or a clothing store? Why?
Would you rather be locked overnight in an amusement park or in a shopping mall? Why?
What would your perfect day look like?
Would you rather lose your eyesight or hearing for a year? Why?
Would you rather be able to predict the future or forget anything you wanted from your past? Why?
Would you rather be thrown a surprise birthday party or plan your own party from start to finish? Why?
What would you do if you were invisible for 24 hours?
Would you rather fly first class for 1 swanky vacation a year or take several inexpensive trips? Why?
Would you rather have a pause button or a rewind button on your life? Why?
What advice would you give your 10-year-old self?
Would you rather have 1 child or 6 (no in-between)? Why?
Would you rather have your dream home or have the funds to travel as much as you wanted? Why?
What is your all-time favorite book? Why?
Would you rather work for a tough boss you like or an easy boss who annoys you? Why?
Would you rather never age or never have to worry about money? Why?
What is your all-time favorite movie? Why?
Would you rather be unable to remember names or unable to remember faces? Why?
Would you rather be rich and hate what you do or have just enough to make ends meet and love what you do? Why?
If you could write a note to your younger self, what would you write in only 3 words?
Would you rather go to your dream school and have to take out a bunch of student loans or go to a decent-enough school you have a full ride to? Why?
Would you rather find true love or find the thing in life you are most talented at? Why?
If you could pick 1 year of your life to do-over, which would it be and why?
Would you rather date your favorite celebrity or be best friends with them? Why?
Would you rather fall in love multiple times or be able to love only one person? Why?
In your life, what has been the biggest blessing in disguise? Why?
Would you rather publish a best-selling book or direct an Oscar-winning movie? Why?
Would you rather be buried or cremated? Why?
If you woke up tomorrow with no fear, what would you do first?
Would you rather be able to speak any language you wanted or play any instrument you wanted? Why?
Would you rather be Nicholas Cage’s personal assistant for a year or let Elon Musk name your first-born child? Why?
What is something you are glad you never have to do again? Why?
Would you rather get back together with your ex or have to listen to only Christmas songs for a year? Why?
Would you rather be CEO of your own company or be paid a good salary to not have to work a ton in a less-senior role? Why?
What is 1 thing you always procrastinate on? Why?
Would you rather eat rotten eggs or drink sour milk? Why?
Would you rather have a year off and still earn your current salary or work for the next year at double your salary? Why?
What would you do with your life if you were suddenly awarded a billion dollars?
Would you rather only be able to go on cruises or only be able to go to Disney World for vacations? Why?
Would you rather be remembered for the wrong reason or completely forgotten? Why?
If you could be a member of the opposite gender for a day, what would be the first thing you would do? Why?
Would you rather be in extreme heat in a snowsuit or in extreme cold in a swimsuit? Why?
Would you rather live near family or be far from family but living exactly where you wanted? Why?
If it were possible, would you want to know the date and time you are going to die? Why or why not?
Would you rather be able to eat only Hawaiian pizza or only pizza that is doused in ranch? Why?
Would you rather be surrounded by other people 75% of the time or alone 75% of the time? Why?
Do you think TV violence and/or aggressive video games might cause aggressive behavior in people? Why or why not?
Would you rather be trapped in a rom-com with people you hate or trapped in a horror movie with people you love? Why?
Would you rather be extremely talented at one thing only or pretty decent at a large number of things? Why?
Are you in favor of a woman’s right to choose or the right to life? Why?
Would you rather let your mother or your ex create your next online dating profile? Why?
Would you rather be able to see other people’s futures or be able to see your own? Why?
You get offered a very good paying job from a laboratory that does painful experiments on live animals. Do you accept the job? Why or why not?
Would you rather give up showering for a month or give up the internet for a month? Why?
Would you rather be shown love in gifts or through words of affirmation? Why?
You get offered a very good paying job from a prison that does painful experiments on inmates. Do you accept the job? Why or why not?
Would you rather be known for your culinary skills or your fashion sense? Why?
Would you rather be endlessly lucky or know you have earned everything you have achieved? Why?
You are a convict serving a 30-year sentence. A medical research team is looking for volunteers to take an experimental drug that could have permanent ill side effects. Volunteers are given an early parole. Would you take the drug? Why or why not?
Would you rather be overdressed or underdressed in perpetuity. including when you are at home? Why?
Would you rather marry for love, for practical purposes or never get married at all? Why?
Should marijuana be legal on a federal level? Why or why not?
Would you rather spend a month backpacking around Europe or around Asia? Why?
Would you rather people laughed or cried at your funeral? Why?
Should citizens have guns? Why or why not?
Would you rather have an apartment in Paris or Rome? Why?
Would you rather be able to see 10 years into the future or be able to erase 3 mistakes from your past? Why?
Death penalty. Pro or con? Why?
Would you rather your pet be able to talk to you or be able to live forever? Why?
Would you rather die before or after your partner? Why?
Is it ok to burn the flag? Why or why not?
Would you rather have to watch only Friends reruns or only The Office reruns for the next year? Why?
Would you rather have a one-minute conversation with your past self or your future self? Why?
What is your superpower?
Would you rather have spinach stuck in your teeth all day without knowing or toilet paper stuck to your shoe without knowing? Why?
Would you rather go to a trivia night or a standup comedy show? Why?
A gay friend asks you to march in a Gay Rights Parade. You are not gay. Do you march? Why or why not?
Would you rather go on a movie date or a museum date? Why?
Would you rather be a member of the Kardashian family or a member of the Obama family? Why?
Your company decides to initiate a voluntary drug-testing program for its employees. Do you support it? Why or why not?
Would you rather live alone or live with friends? Why?
Would you rather only watch one single movie for the rest of your life or only listen to the same song for the rest of your life? Why?
You are an off-duty police officer at a party where a group is smoking marijuana. Do you arrest them? Why or why not?
Would you rather live alone or live with friends? Why?
Would you rather have tons of casual friends or 1 best friend? Why?
Your teenager tells you in strict confidence that a friend is experimenting with cocaine. You know the friend’s parents are unaware of it. Do you warn the parents? Why or why not?
Would you rather go back to your elementary school days or jump forward to retired life? Why?
Would you rather eat only burgers for a week or only ice cream for a week? Why?
Your brother is a real playboy. He is setting up a girl, who you know, for a big disappointment. She asks you if your brother loves her. Do you tell her the truth? Why or why not?
Would you rather eat only Cool Ranch Doritos or eat only Cheetos for a year? Why?
Would you rather live in a world where it constantly snows or always rains? Why?
You are a movie star with a squeaky-clean image. After you accept a very lucrative film role, you learn that you must do a nude scene. You believe that the scene is essential to the story line, but it could ruin your image. Do you do it? Why or why not?
Would you rather live in a world without music or a world without movies? Why?
Would you rather be Rihanna or date Rihanna? Why?
You learn that your child’s 5th grade physical education teacher is gay. Do you protest to the school administrators? Why or why not?
Would you rather be lost in the desert or stranded at sea? Why?
Would you rather be stuck as a character in Friends or in Breaking Bad? Why?
You are sitting in the library and begin talking to the person next to you. You have an enjoyable conversation and you promise to call for a date. When the person gets up to leave, you realize the person is physically handicapped. Do you still call for the date? Why or why not?
Would you rather spend a rainy day trying out a new recipe or marathoning Netflix? Why?
Would you rather be covered in hair or have no hair at all? Why?
Just as your son starts his freshman year in college he tells you that his girlfriend is pregnant and he is the father. Your son loves her and wants to marry her. Do you discourage him from marrying her? Why or why not?
Would you rather spend a winter in the snowiest reaches of Alaska or a summer in the driest part of Arizona? Why?
Would you rather not brush your teeth for a week or not take a shower for two weeks? Why?
You are going to night school to get your college degree. You flunked English last semester and must take the course again. You have a chance to buy a term paper for this course from an honor student. Do you do it? Why or why not?
Would you rather only be able to read 19th century literature or only be able to read comics? Why?
Would you rather date someone with a visible tattoo of their ex’s name or get a tattoo of your current partner’s name? Why?
Would you rather only be able to take 3-hour baths or 3-minute showers (no in-between)? Why?
Your 18-year-old finally introduces you to the person she has been dating for several months. The person is 36 years old. Do you express opposition? Why or why not?
Would you rather furnish your dream home in antiques or in cutting-edge, modern designs? Why?
Would you rather be on a dating show or a survival show? Why?
A radio talk show host you have been listening to for years makes an insulting remark about people of your ethnic heritage on the air. Do you call the radio station to complain? Why or why not?
Would you rather have a mountain view or lit-up cityscape outside your bedroom window? Why?
Would you rather have your least favorite song played on a constant loop or never listen to music again? Why?
You are about to hire a young woman to waitress at your restaurant. She tells you she is epileptic but takes medication to control the seizures. Do you still hire her? Why or why not?
Would you rather be the plan maker in your friend group or the jokester? Why?
Would you rather always be underdressed or always be overdressed? Why?
Your teenage daughter asks if you and your spouse slept together before you were married. You did. Do you answer truthfully? Why or why not?
Would you rather have a small home with a big yard or a big house but no outdoor space? Why?
Would you rather be too hot or too cold? Why?
You find some contraceptives in your 15-year old’s dresser drawer. Do you confront him or her with your discovery? Why or why not?
Would you rather accidentally send a text to your mom or to your boss? Why?
Would you rather be remembered in history books for doing something terrible or be completely forgotten after you die? Why?
You are 16 years old again and back in high school. You have been dating someone you like a lot for the past few months. Your parents do not like the person you are dating and forbid you to see him or her. Do you obey your parents? Why or why not?
Would you rather have a bathroom emergency at a date’s house or at your place of work? Why?
Would you rather be a famous actor/actress or a famous athlete? Why?
An old, dirty, homeless person is suffering a heart attack and needs CPR. You are trained in CPR. Do you administer it? Why or why not?
Would you rather brush your teeth with a Carolina Reaper pepper or clean toilet water? Why?
Would you rather discover a new planet or find sunken treasure? Why?
From your living room window, you see 2 members of a particular religious sect walking towards your door. The group is dedicated to converting people. Do you pretend you are not home? Why or why not?
Would you rather have only used toothbrushes or used underwear at your disposal for a week? Why?
Would you rather live on a boat or in a treehouse? Why?
Your daughter is a high school junior and a terrific softball player. She could be eligible for a college scholarship. Her grades have slipped lately because of her team commitment. Would you pull her from the team? Why or why not? What would you do?
Would you rather wear formal wear (full length gowns or tuxedos) at home or only sweats when out? Why?
Would you rather have super weird dreams forever or never dream again? Why?
You think you are underpaid. Do you still give your job 100%? Why or why not?
Would you rather always have damp socks or always have a pebble in your shoe? Why?
Would you rather wear the same clothes every day for a year or wear the same hairstyle forever? Why?
You are a woman and you have been pulled over for speeding by a policeman. You might get off with just a warning if you bat your eyelashes a little and adopt a cutesy “I’m sorry” attitude. Do you use your womanly advantage to beat the ticket? Why or why not?
Would you rather spend a year in a convent or a year living in a Las Vegas hotel-casino? Why?
Would you rather wear heels at the beach or sandals at a muddy outdoor music festival? Why?
Your 15-year-old daughter refuses to stand and repeat the Lord’s Prayer in school. She says she is an atheist. Do you support her right to refuse? Why or why not?
Would you rather eat BBQ for breakfast or pastries for dinner? Why?
Would you rather spend the rest of your life trapped inside or trapped outside? Why?
Your parents had been married for 26 years before your mother dies suddenly. Barely 1 month after her death, your father begins to date again. Do you express opposition? Why or why not?
Would you rather be with the same person for most of your life or many different people? Why?
Would you rather give up breakfast or dinner? Why?
You and 3 other friends are planning to celebrate a birthday. The person you want to date calls and wants to see you that evening. Do you tell the person you want to go out with that you are busy? Why or why not?
Would you rather have a fancy night out or a movie night at home? Why?
Would you rather spend a full day sitting or standing? Why?
Your 16-year-old daughter has spent time this summer with a relative who belongs to a different religion. Now your daughter wants to attend services of this denomination. Do you discourage her from doing so? Why or why not?
Would you rather know everything that is happening in your partner’s mind or nothing at all? Why?
Would you rather give up the internet or your pet? Why?
You are a police officer. You catch a burglar after a high-speed chase. You forgot to read him his rights when you arrested him and he could go free on a technicality. If asked in court if you read him his rights, would you say “Yes”? Why or why not?
Would you rather go on the best ever date once or a bunch of average dates? Why?
Would you rather make a movie about your most embarrassing moment or publish your diary? Why?
A friend surprises you with an expense Christmas present. You did not intend to exchange present with this person. Do you now buy an equally expensive gift for your friend? Why or why not?
Would you rather celebrate lots of little relationship milestones or just 1 big 1 every year? Why?
Would you rather be really fast or ultra strong? Why?
You buy a cocktail dress for a special occasion. You wear it once and realize that you have little use for it. Do you return the dress as unworn and ask for a refund? Why or why not?
Would you rather be serenaded by your partner or your favorite musician? Why?
Would you rather be more attractive or more intelligent? Why?
Your 8-year-old hears the words “sexual intercourse” on television and asks you what it means. What do you say?
Would you rather wear your partner’s underwear or go commando? Why?
Would you rather give the perfect gift or receive it? Why?
You are a restaurant critic. A good friend owns a restaurant and asks you to review it. The food is mediocre. Do you say so in the review? Why or why not?
Would you rather go on a relaxing vacation or a non-stop adventure vacation? Why?
Would you rather only be able to text or call me for the rest of your life? Why?
You are on a first date with someone special at a very elegant restaurant. Your filet mignon arrives overdone. Do you send it back to the kitchen? Why or why not?
Would you rather be constantly surprised or always know what is coming? Why?
Would you rather spend your free time with a loved one or alone? Why?
You are reading an interesting magazine in the dentist’s waiting room. You want a particular article in the magazine. Would you tear it out? Why or why not?
Would you rather receive flowers or chocolate? Why?
Would you rather your mind stays young forever or your body? Why?
One of your co-workers is not doing his or her share of the work. You consider this unfair. Do you tell your boss? Why or why not?
Would you rather have pets or kids? Why?
Would you rather spend time with older or younger people? Why?
You are a newspaper reporter working on a story that would skyrocket your career. A judge threatens to jail you unless you reveal an important source. You promised anonymity to your source. Do you reveal the source? Why or why not?
Would you rather workout with your partner at the gym or go for a jog on your own? Why?
Would you rather plan a wedding or a large surprise 50th wedding anniversary party? Why?
You are a police officer. You pull over a car that is speeding in a school zone. The driver is a neighbor’s son. Do you let him off with only a verbal warning? Why or why not?
Would you rather have your heart broken or break someone else’s heart? Why?
Would you rather have someone make you your favorite meal or go out to a new restaurant? Why?
You and your buddies meet weekly for a friendly poker game. After a few months, you think that 1 of your friends is cheating. Would you mention it to the other players? Why or why not?
Would you rather be rich with money or love? Why?
Would you rather be the loudest or quietest person in the room? Why?
Late at night you drive up to a highway toll booth. The toll taker is sound asleep. Do you drive through without stopping to pay? Why or why not?
Would you rather be long distance with your partner for a year or spend a month not talking at all? Why?
Would you rather always be late or always be too early? Why?
You are a West Point cadet bound by a strict honor code. You witness another cadet, who is also a friend, cheating on a test. Do you turn him in? Why or why not?
Would you rather marry the person of your dreams or have the career of your dreams? Why?
Would you rather be an accomplished writer or speaker? Why?
One of your professors is incompetent. Some classmates have prepared a petition asking for the professor’s replacement. Do you sign it? Why or why not?
Would you rather feel like you know your partner better than anyone or feel like they make you happier every day? Why?
Would you rather forget the worst moment of your life or remember the best moment of your life? Why?
You are on vacation and you meet people you will probably never see again. Do you make up stories about your life and background to appear more interesting to them? Why or why not?
Would you rather cuddle or kiss? Why?
Would you rather be 20 for the rest of your life or 40? Why?
As a special treat, you want to take your 12-year-old to an award-winning movie. It has some nudity in it, but the reviews say it is “fun for all ages”. Do you take your child to the movie? Why or why not?
Would you rather your partner has an annoying best friend or an intimidating ex? Why?
Would you rather fulfill your biggest wish or resolve your biggest regret? Why?
You are offered a prestigious job with a big salary. The new position requires lots of traveling which will cut into the time you spend with your family. Do you accept the job? Why or why not?
Would you rather be with someone who hates your favorite foods or hates your pet? Why?
Would you rather receive money or a gift made by hand? Why?
You are in a busy shoe store. The sales clerk begins to wait on you before another customer who was there longer. Do you refer the clerk to the other customer? Why or why not?
Would you rather be feared or loved? Why?
Would you rather trust everyone without a thought or have a hard time trusting people? Why?
Your infant cries in the middle of the night. Do you sometimes pretend you are asleep so your significant other will get up and take care of the baby? Why or why not?
Would you rather know how you die or when you die? Why?
Would you rather your partner be able to read your mind when you wanted something or gave you a compliment every day? Why?
Your neighbor builds a fence that is on your property by 18 inches. Do you ask your neighbor to move the fence? Why or why not?
Would you rather find your soul mate or perfect job? Why?
Would you rather live in a big city or a small town? Why?
Are you a republican or a democrat? Why?
Would you rather give up social media or be an influencer? Why?
Would you rather your crush be able to read your mind or have access to your internet history? Why?
What is something that never ends well?
Would you rather explore the deep sea or outer space? Why?
Would you rather spend a bunch of money on your wedding or on your honeymoon? Why?
When was the last time you cried? Why did you cry then?
Would you rather lose all of the money you earned this year or lose all of the memories you made this year? Why?
What is 1 behavior you never tolerate and why?
Would you rather ask for help or figure it out on your own? Why?
What should a healthy relationship provide for the people in it?
Would you rather believe in fate or coincidence? Why?
Is there anything you consider absolutely unforgivable?
Would you rather vacation at the same beautiful beach every year or visit a new unknown place every year? Why?
You are the victim of a sexual assault. The assailant is caught. Knowing the humiliation you must go through during the trial, do you still agree to prosecute? Why or why not?
Would you rather travel anywhere you wanted for the rest of your life for free or buy your dream house for free? Why?
Your significant other asks you how many sex partners you have had in the past. Do you tell the truth? Why or why not?
Would you rather be able to fly or be able to breathe underwater? Why?
While visiting your hometown, you casually meet your old high school sweetheart. You have lunch together. Do you tell your significant other? Why or why not?
Would you rather have been the oldest or youngest child in your family? Why?
You own an expensive motorcycle and really enjoy riding it. Your significant other thinks it is unsafe and asks you to get rid of it. Do you comply? Why or why not?
Would you rather have six months of spring or six months of summer? Why?
You are at a wedding reception. Your significant other, who has had a few drinks, is dancing much too closely with your best friend. Do you cut in and break it up? Why or why not?
Would you rather let a spider climb over you or let a snake slither all over you? Why?
You and your best friend are attracted to the same person. The new romantic prospect asks you if your friend is involved with anyone. Do you lie and say “yes”? Why or why not?
Would you rather go a year without desserts or have to eat a spoonful of wasabi every single day? Why?
Would you rather kiss your crush after not brushing your teeth for a week or know you will not kiss them at all for the next year? Why?
You have been dating someone for a month and really like the person a lot. The person is a bit flirtatious and winks at others when you are out together. Would you continue the relationship? Why or why not?
Would you rather have to pass out at 7:30 p.m. every night or fall asleep at 3:30 a.m. every night? Why?
Would you rather have to post everything in your search history right now or post the names of everyone you have ever had a crush on? Why?
Your new significant other has developed an allergy to your faithful pet. Do you get rid of your pet? Why or why not?
Would you rather watch RuPaul’s Drag Race with a priest or the Bachelorette with a stripper? Why?
Would you rather accidentally like your ex’s Instagram pic or your current partner’s ex’s Instagram pic? Why?
You are engaged to be married. Your fiancé demands that you no longer see a former “ex” who is now just a friend. Do you end your friendship with your “ex”? Why or why not?
Would you rather be brought back as a dog or as a cat in your next life? Why?
You are invited to a party where you know you will see an “ex” with his or her new love. You have no date for the party. Do you go anyway? Why or why not?
Would you rather have a photographic memory or the ability to read minds? Why?
You and your significant other are planning to separate. Your significant other develops an illness, becomes an invalid and requires constant care. Do you still file for the separation and leave? Why or why not?
Would you rather live solo on an uninhabited island or live in a city apartment with 6 roomies and 1 bathroom? Why?
Your father is having an affair. Your mother is unaware of it. Do you tell her? Why or why not?
Would you rather sing well and dance poorly or sing poorly and dance well? Why?
Your best friend is cheating on her boyfriend and asks you to provide her with an alibi. Do you? Why or why not?
Would you rather be able to take back anything you say or listen in on every conversation that is about you? Why?
You have always been attracted to your best friend’s boyfriend. They just broke up. Would you ask your best friend’s ex out on a date? Why or why not?
Would you rather be an extra in an acclaimed Oscar-winning movie or star in a so-bad-it’s-good flick? Why?
A brown-wrapped package stamped SEXUALLY EXPLICIT MATERIAL INSIDE is delivered to your house and addressed to your significant other. Your significant other is not at home. Would you open it up without your significant other’s permission? Why or why not?
Would you rather have to give up coffee or give up pizza for a year? Why?
You and your new significant other are both over 40 years old. You both want children. Do you try and have a baby even though it is a medical risk? Why or why not?
Would you rather live in a ritzy hotel or live in a cabin in the woods? Why?
You are married but no longer in love with your significant other. You have 2 small children. You have fallen deeply in love with another person who wants you to get a divorce. Do you? Why or why not?
Would you rather be known for always being honest or always being kind? Why?
Your significant other buys you a very expensive designer watch you do not like. Do you pretend that you like it anyway? Why or why not?
Would you rather have to publicly speak every day or get a visible tattoo you really hated? Why?
You are recently separated. Your children are visiting your estranged spouse for the weekend. Your estranged spouse has a new apartment and a new significant other. Do you pump the kids for information when they return? Why or why not?
Would you rather have a pool in your backyard or live next to the ocean? Why?
You are in love with someone who wants to have children. You definitely do not want a child. Do you risk the relationship by saying so? Why or why not?
Would you rather swim with electric eels or sleep in a bat-filled cave? Why?
A tradition in your significant other’s family dictates that your first-born son should carry the grandfather’s name. You hate the name. Do you break tradition? Why or why not?
Would you rather be the smartest or the funniest person in the room? Why?
Your significant other is grossly overweight and no diet seems to work. It has turned you off romantically. Your significant other wants to go to a famous weight reduction clinic which includes risky surgery but promises dramatic results, but is very costly. Do you send your significant other to the clinic? Why or why not?